Growth

Growing Pain

About Individual Limitations

• The less expertise in sth., the more likely you are to overestimate your competence in it.

QUESTIONS:

• less expertise, but over-estimate competence
• less skilled, but over-confidence
• be ignorant of limitations

SOLUTIONS:

• intellectual humility / intellectually humble
• a willingness to acknowledge cognitive limitations
• an ability to embrace diverse perspectives

  a higher willingness to acknowledge cognitive limitations and the ability to embrace diverse perspectives is connected with more accurate perception of intelligence.

• So embrace the unknown and remember, there's always more to learn.

BENEFITS:

• get more accurate perception of intelligence
• be more open to negotiating
• be more open to compromising
• be more open to exploring information.

About heartbreak

heartbreak often occurs after a breakup, bereavement or the loss of a family member of friend

bereavement: the death of a close relation or friend

HOW TO DESCRIBE THE "SADNESS"

• feel pain viscerally: in a way that is based on deep feeling and emotional reactions rather than on reason or thought.
• grief: very great sadness especially at the death of someone

a deep thought

the pain of heartbreak actually comes from our brain, and is a by-product of love.

HOW TO DO WITH "HEARTBREAK"

• take time to grieve

  grieve: to feel or express great sadness

• reconnect with yourself --与自己寻找共鸣
• surround yourself with supportive friends.

Embrace ourselves

Don't feel guilty about guilty pressure

• When we treat ourselves, it can sometimes leave us feeling guilty.

ADVANTAGES OF TREAT OURSELVES:

• provide an opportunity to take control of situations
• give your social contact
• give your confidence boost
• lift your mood

ATTENTION:

self-indulgence and self-nurturing

• self-indulgence

  self-indulgence can be reckless and have negative consequence

• self-nurturing

  self-nurturing is taking responsible decisions to satisfy our needs and take care of ourselves in ways that don't have a significant impact.

Reflect the difference between them

Reflecting the difference between self-indulgence and self-nurturing, they recommended rewarding yourself for your efforts, doing things that you enjoy and are good at so that you can feel accomplishment and to avoid things that make you feel worse afterwards.